Has this ever happened to you?
You exchange contact information with someone at an event and the next time you hear from them is in some mass email sent to their entire list? Sometimes to make it even worse, the guilty party isn’t even using an email service provider, they’re just adding your email to a manual list and exposing it to everyone when they send out their announcements.
It’s not okay to add people to your e-newsletter list without their permission. Period.
Yes, you should have an email list. But you must let people opt-in rather than forcing them to opt-out. (Although many don’t even allow you to do that.)
Here’s why you’d rather have people opt-in…
What is opting-in?
As you might imagine opting-in is simply someone taking a step to say “Yes, I want to receive information.” For example, you can enter your information in the box at the top right to get my free new media marketing e-course. If you do, you’ve opted-in. Hooray!
Imagine if out of the blue I just started sending it to you. Would you think that was cool?
Just sending information without permission is not cool
It’s actually spam. 🙁
And spam has a tendency to piss people off. Is this what you want to do? Probably not the best idea.
Here’s what you should do instead
Ask people to join your email list. When I first started my email list I asked a handful of friends if they’d like to sign-up. Some did, some didn’t. That’s cool. At least now I know the people who get my emails are the ones who really want the information. And if that should ever change they get an option to unsubscribe in every email.
I’m not saying it’s wrong to follow up with people
You should. But there’s a difference between sending a personal note and lumping someone into a mass email that contains info they’re probably not interested in. If it’s of major concern to you to have people on your list, ask them to sign-up or at least give them the option to confirm they want to be on it.
I’m cool with getting an email from someone I met that says, “Hey, it was great to meet you. Blah, blah, blah. If you’d like more on whatever it was we were talking you should sign-up for my e-newsletter here.”
This is not the same as forcing someone to opt-out
Some people think that it’s no big deal if you add email addresses as long as they have the option to opt-out after the fact. I wonder if those same people think it’s cool when people start charging their credit card and they have to call to make them stop? Same thing here.
It’s always better to let people opt-in.
Another way to let people opt-in rather than opt-out
Just recently, I worked with an amazing bunch of actors and directors for a playmaking program I produce. They’ve asked to be informed about the program. So they’re on my list for this program in particular.
Of course, I’d love if they also wanted information about the other programs and show we have available throughout the year. Now I have a choice, I can either just add them, which we know is not ideal, or I can let them decide for themselves and opt-in.
Here’s how I let people decide for themselves
This is the email I use so people can opt-in for themselves:
You’ll find your list responsiveness improves too
Because now you’ve got a list full of people who want to hear from you rather than a group surprised to hear from you.
All it means is shifting the control, let people decide for themselves. Ask me if it’s okay and let me confirm for myself.
How do you feel about being added to list without permission? Tell me in the comments.
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raincoaster says
Adding people to your newsletter mailing list without their permission is not just a bad idea. It’s actually illegal in Canada, and is a violation not only of privacy law but of the criminal code, specifically the part about stalking. This was put in place partly because of the behavior of internet stalkers, but thanks to Canada’s privacy code it’s likely to be a permanent state of affairs.
Nothing annoys me more than speaking to a group, mentioning this, and then getting three or four emails anyway.
Don’t be That Guy.
Dave Charest says
“Don’t be That Guy” – Truer words have never been spoken.
I don’t mind getting a follow-up email especially if I’ve had a great conversation with someone. But getting added to those lists…grr.
Sounds like Canada is on top of it!
Thanks for the comment.
Rebecca Coleman says
Yeah, we have big time anti-spam laws up here north of the border. Possibly the strictest in the world.
When I go to a networking group and I collect a bunch of biz cards, I have an email that I sent out to everyone afterwards, offering to connect with them in the way that works best for them: it might be my e-newsletter, or it might be Twitter or my fan page.
I just like to give them the info and then let them decide. 🙂
Dave Charest says
I like your style Coleman. 😉
Karen May Dy says
Great article Dave! I have been added to mailing lists that I have never even signed up for. It has happened several times and I do not tolerate this act. Thanks for a great article!